Chemistry and attraction are difficult concepts to understand and explain. You can be very sexually and physically attracted to a person but not want to be in a relationship with them. It does happen. I had this happen to me after a 5 year relationship when a man basically said no to marrying me and making things more permanent. Less than a year later he married his secretary from work. When I found out I was so heartbroken wondering what she had that I didn’t. However, those are not really helpful questions to ask yourself because there are no good answers. Needless to say, his “no” was the kindest and most loving thing he ever gave me. It freed me up to find the wonderful, loving, spiritual relationship that I have now. With time, you will be able to look back and see this as a gift, but in the meantime, be gentle with yourself and try not to dwell on what you don’t have that she wanted. Focus on how much you do have to offer the right person and soon you’ll attract that person. Best of luck!
~Jodi