Hi Jane,

I’ve been through this before, and all I can say is that famous Maya Angelou quote ‘When people show you who they are, believe them.’ You save yourself a lot of time that way. Clearly your bf wants you to exist in his life, but doesn’t want to exist in yours. If you feel that he doesn’t want to spend time with your family, then he doesn’t. And that’s not something you should have to work towards. He doesn’t sound like he’s ready for a serious relationship.

I would suggest letting things cool, letting him come to you. Don’t apologize, as he is the one who hurt your feelings, not the other way around. If he doesn’t care enough to work on the relationship, then there’s your answer: he’s not the right guy for you. It may feel like you’ve invested all this time, and how can he act like this, but hey, people get divorced after twenty-five years of marriage, you know? Just let things be, and enjoy your life. Easier said than done, I know. But it’s the most important thing to do, especially at a time like this!

Good luck 🙂
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