All I can say is “Nothing Creates Distance Like Distance”.

Would it be possible to MOVE? I know it’s a pain in the azz, and terribly unfair, but even if you live a half hour away in the other direction from where your husband works (and thus a full hour away from them) that would help. A lot.

And I know people who MOVED closer to where their children went to college.

Then you can see these people (if you’d want to) at holidays. One day, one evening, three hours. Done.