My input is that your expectation that “they can learn to accept me for who I am and not judge me all over again” may be unrealistic. If your grandmother is very invested in the bible with its abomination for homosexuals, she is NOT likely at all to accept you or learn to accept you. To accept you for being a homosexual/ gay, would mean to NOT accept the bible. Which is likely to happen: her accepting you OR continuing to accept the bible? If your father is not highly invested in the bible and if his homophobic feelings are not all- consuming, he may make an exception for his little girl.

anita