I would not push it with your father, that is, after you tell him in no uncertain terms that you are gay, I wouldn’t KEEP telling him that again and again. You already told him. If he treats you respectfully and does not give you any negative talk about you being gay- I would drop the issue from your conversations and interactions with him. It really is not his fault that he FEELS negatively toward homosexuality- he can’t help what he feels just like you can’t help being attracted to girls. So why give him a hard time?

So after telling him (and you did)- don’t keep telling him. If you are about to get married to a woman, you can let him know that- significant things about your life, but otherwise talk with him about other, real aspects of your life.

Same prinicple with anyone, really, tell them once and if they do not mistreat you, do not keep telling them. Talk with them about other, real life things. Do not hide but do not push it either.

As new people come into your life, you can permit only people who feel okay about you being gay. Regarding people who are already in your life, who you care about, and who do not mistreat you- I suggest the attitude I wrote about here.

anita