Dear Sann:

It would have been nice IF reality was not what it is. It would have been nice IF you could be honest and act like what feels right to you (right or …easy?) and that she would react honestly and you would help each other, win-win. So, do we act according what feels right (or easy) no matter the results are negative for us, again and again. Or do we consider the results of our actions, how effective in reality our actions are?

To insist that we are doing the right thing for us because it feels right (…or easy) in spite of the fact that it brings us the results we do not want, again and again, with the same person, is that effective?

Of course it is not wise to choose to have an intimate relationship with this woman, marry her, but there you are stuck with her for now in a work situation, what do you do? Practice BARKING, again adn again and stick to it. What do you have to lose?

anita