Dear Annie:

Accepting your valid need to be loved is one thing. How to get it is another. Learning from your past experience you can, at this point, figure out how to go about it, more attentively. I found TriangleSun’s comment very interesting. In the quote he gave I saw no evidence whatsoever to you playing with someone’s feelings. The closest I got to such possibility was in yuor last sentence in your last comment above: “I guess I can just get excited of all of the guys I can meet now and flirt with.” Pay attention to the shy, introverted guys. When you flirt with them you are suggesting the possibility of a relationship. If you are sure such is not going to be with one particular guy, do not suggest otherwise by flirting.

There is a great opportunity for you, Annie, to learn as you have allthese interactions on campus available to you. While honoring your need for love, for he/she physical touch, you can focus on being curious, curious of how things work- and how they don’t work. Pay attention to every interaction you have with another, and interactions others are having with others, learn and get wiser and wiser…

anita