Hi marvelgirl,

I’m going to say that you guys did things backwards. For some reason it’s difficult to get into romantic relationship mode after you do passionate mode first. You miss the getting to know you, the will-he-won’t-he, the butterflies. And he does too, by the way! Men are geared to pursue what they want and if it’s just handed to them, they focus on other things.

I’m not sure how you can turn this around. You guys being with each other seems like a habit. You are default go-to buddies.

If it were me I’d say, “Let’s have dinner and a movie OUT.” And not have sex that night but do have cuddling. Dress up for him. Somehow change the script. Say, “Now that you are special to me I want to make this special. If you don’t feel the same way now, you now know that I’m looking for a relationship, and maybe it will work out one day if I’m not with someone.”

If he says “No” say “Goodbye my Friend” and don’t have hookups with him again.

If he says “Yes”, great!

Good Luck,

Inky

• This reply was modified 9 years, 3 months ago by Inky.