Hi TheDayDreamer,

Here are my thoughts:

1. It sounds like your BF and his ex are really good friends and do have this certain easy going rapport. If it were me and my friends, this is how I would interpret it:

“Not without a reward” = “Why should I do a big azz favor for you” (while also making reference to the time they were together)
“I’m not a slut” = “In your dreams, buddy!”
“And I’m not a bimbo” = “I really think you’re a dumb girl and I wouldn’t do anything anyway. But stop asking me for favors!”

I interpreted it as he knows she’s taking advantage of their friendship, and he wouldn’t go there. HOWEVER they feel SO comfortable having these kind of fun exchanges.

2. He lies to you because he wants this easy going friendship with no drama.

3. If it were me, my solution could either solve the situation or ultimately head for a breakup. I would say, “When you visit her, you have to bring me.” What a bummer, right?? However, I would also paradoxically invite her over. The more she sees you two as a couple, the more any fantasies are eradicated and the more she associates him with you. The next time she asks for help, YOU show up, or YOU show up FIRST and say, “Well, here I am!!” ready to help her put furniture/whatever together. LOL

4. Go on Instagram and Like and Comment on things she and your BF post! Same with FB. Once a week so you are in their circle. Same with everything. Mark your territory, girl! At the same time, DON’T act upset or like “she’s” a big deal around your BF.

5. Say “We” a lot, around your BF and to this girl. Post pics of the two of you and the awesome gifts he gives you on birthday/Xmas/V-Day. And of vacation posts. Don’t overdo this. One a month. You’re aiming for subtle but powerful.

OK, Good Luck!

Inky

• This reply was modified 9 years, 3 months ago by Inky.
• This reply was modified 9 years, 3 months ago by Inky.