It’s really amazing to me how someone who has so much that many many others wish they had, attempts to ruin it all by bringing in a person from the past who clearly shouldn’t be in their present or future. Man, you have a loving wife and beautiful kids. Stop before you lose both. Do you honestly think your wife doesn’t see this as a problem? I’m 15 years younger than you and I learned enough to know that this is total BS that women say. It bothers her but she trusts you. Don’t lose this trust. You can “clear your name” by not playing tricks with an ex and your family, not by trying to have a friendship with someone who isn’t in your life for a good reason. If she had an ounce of respect for you she’d know to stay the hell away because you are married. But she clearly doesn’t. Seriously man, there are many men such as myself who wish they had what you have. Don’t be a… you know what… and blow it. Forget this woman.