Dear Sann:

Changing such things is so very difficult, so impossibly difficult, so you stay put, where you are because it is less difficult, more practiced- and that is the key: you are practiced at not standing up for yourself so it is easier. It is causing you PAIN but the idea of standing up for yourself causes you FEAR and…

Pain is easier to endure than fear. Fear is the most powerful emotion I know.

So, you are likely to remain in pain so to not face your fear.

anita