Dear Jessa,

Wish i could give you a hug. What a terrible loss for you. Those feelings you’re having, I would have them all too. I’m not sure I’d be able to dust myself off either.

I might start off by doing little things, like making a to-do list each morning and checking off the items as the day goes on. I might put things on it like get outside for a walk, prepare a nice dinner, call a friend, watch an inspiring movie. I’d probably try to go from item to item without thinking too much, just doing each task, like on autopilot.

When I have those moments when I can’t continue because I’m hurting too much, I think I would lean on someone who’s in my life, or make an appointment with a counselor, or go online to Tiny Buddha to let others know I’m hurting, or just sit by myself and have a good cry.

When I’m ready, I’d try to get back to that to-do list…

Lots of love to you.

lori