It’s simple. Get out of your current relationship before getting into a new one! It’s really unfair what you are doing to your wife, the other woman and yourself. Be responsible and do the right thing. You obviously do not love your wife otherwise you wouldn’t be trying to stray away from her. So tell your wife your feelings honestly-about needing solitude, about the other woman you have feelings for. You’d be surprised of what she already knows in her gut!