Hi Glenda,

I confess I haven’t been very kind to my sister who is seeing a poorer man. Maybe we do this because it’s like a trial by fire. When couples are 100% about each other, no one would DARE make a comment!

But I will also say that I will make a comment AFTER she has expressed some dissatisfaction towards him.

I’m all, “If you stay with him, then you really have no right to complain. Staying with him means that you’ve essentially given up your right to complain. If you don’t like it, leave.”

Example: She’ll say, “Don’t you see me with someone in the city/rich/runs a foundation/the president of a museum etc.”

Me: “So dump “Paul”.”

Her: “I would NEVER dump “Paul”!!!”

Me: “So this is a fantasy.”

My grandmother would say, “If you want to marry a rich man only meet rich men.”

NOT that you are a gold digger, not at all!! But either stay with him and not complain, have a child anyway and make it work, move to a part of the country that’s cheaper, break up with him, switch careers, etc….. It’s up to you.