Hi Glenda,

This is what I would do rightly or wrongly ~ all’s fair in love and war, after all!…

You had some great times with the young pastor, and you would be the perfect pastor’s wife, honestly, BUT…

You are having fantasies about dumping your nice long term boyfriend…

AND the pastor VERY POSSIBLY may just think he’s had a nice dinner and a movie with a congregant. And that’s all.

What could be more alluring than a single handsome pastor? They wouldn’t have picked him for the church unless he was good with people. There were probably at least 10-12 other people applying for the job. Meaning, he may have charisma, but for all you know he is having dinner and a movie (discreetly of course) with several other people ~ casually (in his mind).

I’m saying don’t throw away a ten year relationship UNLESS you were going to do that anyway.

Of course, if the pastor asks if you want to date exclusively I would then say go for it!

And I don’t know about your church but it’s frowned upon where we are to date a congregant. Clergy usually go outside of their congregation to date.

Best,

Inky

• This reply was modified 9 years ago by Inky.
• This reply was modified 9 years ago by Inky.