Part of healing then, is to look at the past with fresh eyes. We did our best at the time. What can we learn from past events? Forgive ourselves for unwise choices. Focus on some happier memories. You might even want to pat yourself on the back for surviving some tough times. As I get older, I feel that life is a kind of last man/woman standing survival reality show. I’m lucky to get to 57. Some people don’t even get that far. Lucky to have relative health and live in one of the safest countries in the world. My current challenge is to look at my future with fresh eyes too. Never too late to have goals. Maybe I can make a difference to someone’s life, no matter how small. We have to be happy with small successes.