Hi Lauren,

If she shamelessly had an affair when she AND the other man were married, then BELIEVE me, she does NOT take “boyfriend/girlfriend” relationships seriously!!

I had something like this, and I will tell you/warn you that in the process of making it better, it WILL get worse/escalate.

The process is simple: Your BF should let her texts hang. Pretty soon she will be tired and feel a little pathetic for talking to herself via her texts to him. Then she will call, “I’m worried.” “Is everything OK” “Are you mad at me”.

YOUR response (when she inevitably calls YOU), “Oh, not at all, we are just so busy!”

Then change the script: Go on vacation, be “sick”, say you’re going on a Social Media fast (that you two post on Social Media), say you “lost” the cell phone!, be busy, take a class weekend nights, get playhouse tickets, or seasonal sports/museum tickets so you are physically GONE when she wants to get together.

If he responds never or rarely, she will feel like an idiot. She WILL make a stink, but she WILL move on to another victim.

Good Luck!

Inky