Hi Ladybug,

OK I am the QUEEN of Daddy Issues!! LOL

First of all, it is likely that your dad is depressed if the TV and computer are the highlights of his day.

And in his mind he is doing everything “right” and then you or your mom complain, then he’s upset. Some men cannot have Deep Conversations! Also, he is hitting the age of Mid Life Crisis Land. He is upset too, but for different reasons that have nothing to do with you and your mom (the definition of mid-life crisis!) This is why they really bicker.

Lastly, if you move out and don’t see your parents as often, the “dam dailies” will become a special occasion! You want your existence in your dad’s life to be a special thing for him!! And you are, don’t get me wrong! It’s just… OK, a Whole Foods opened up near us. The first few shopping trips there everyone raved about the food in my family. Now it’s “Whole Foods again? I want Mallowmars!” … I didn’t see our daughter for FIVE MONTHS and when she was coming home I was literally FREAKING OUT I was so excited! Now she’s been here a month and we’re all, “Oh, that’s nice” LOL.

What I’m saying is that you’re asking a very limited person to be an idealized version of what you think he should be. View him as a stranger or a kid ~ he’s nice enough, but limited.

You have to love him for what he is ~ that is true love. It’s hard, BELIEVE ME!

Blessings,

Inky

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