Hi Max,

Heart breaks are tough and you are right that you should not contact her for at least 3 months. After 3 months, the question you should ask yourself is can you be her friend without want something more? If the answer is no, it is best to stay away from her. In my experience, 3 months is usually not enough to change the dynamic of a relationship and it ended up prolonging the pain.

When I was younger, I thought that there is something heroic in fighting for love like in the movies. Now I realize that it is exhausting to keep fighting for someone to love you while she considers her options. The less she feels, the more we put in until the relationship is so unbalanced that it crumbles under it’s own weight.

As you pointed out, idle time is the worst enemy and though different things work for different people, some form of physical exercise usually helps to anchor your mind in the present.