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I know this is going to seem like clichéd advice but this is the only advice I can give you – just ride it out and hang in there. You probably won’t believe me when I say this but things do get better eventually. There have been times over the past four years when I felt as if the s*** had hit the fan and at the time I was convinced things were going to stay that way forever, but I found that those states of being don’t last forever. 2015 was another example of a crappy year and I’m only starting to get back up and fight back.

I agree with Jim when he said “try to help somebody less fortunate” – is there an organization or cause you could volunteer for? I have done a bit of volunteer work over the past few years – I worked at a charity/thrift shop run by the British Heart Foundation (this was extremely fun – getting to play shopkeepers on the cash register and getting first dibs on all the cool books and cds haha!) I currently volunteer at a public library – mostly it’s boring stuff like putting books back on shelves (somebody has to do it!) but sometimes I do get asked by members of the public to help them out with computer-related matters and that is the stuff I enjoy the most. I find helping other people is great and you feel good.

You also mention that your friendships bother you and that they are unreliable backstabbers. They sound like generally toxic people if you ask me, and in my opinion people are better off not associating with such people. Are there any other friendships you don’t deem to be dishonest and unreliable? Try spending more time with them. If you do decide to maybe do volunteer work or something, you could make new friends there.

I hope the tables turn for you soon, my friend. Sending you light and strength.

Joe