Hi Max,

Just wanted to acknowledged that it’s an incredibly brave step that you took and that with time, it does get better. If you need something to strengthen you decision (I certainly did when I was in a similar situation), the people here have made some very valid points:

1) She need to spend time on her own before she can approach a relationship in a healthy manner. At the moment, she is reaching out based from a place of need rather than building something long term and positive.

2) Glad to hear that you stood up to her about what you want. If seeing her in a romantic relationship with someone else feels like having your heart ripped out and your self esteem thrown in a shredder, it means that you are not ready to be her friend yet. You may have a special connection with this person but if that’s how she makes you feel, being around that is going to destroy your confidence to have a healthy relationship with someone else.

3) Try to avoid self loathing, wondering about “what if I did that…” or hating her because that makes it harder for you to move on. Whenever our soul connects with another person, it’s special even when things didn’t turn out the way we wanted. See it as an opportunity to learn and prepare you for the relationship that you deserve.