Dear MAJ:

The loyalty of your boyfriend to his parents is going to win over his love for you. That loyalty is deeply ingrained. It will take a very strong man to turn his back on that ingrained-in-childhood loyalty. In countries where arranged marriage is not the practice, there are plenty oh, so much misery adult children are still going through because of such loyalty, to beliefs ingrained in childhood….

Take care of yourself and… would you recommend, knowing your experience, that women not of Indian descent do not date Indian men to begin with, that it is doomed to start with?

anita