Oh sweet Amy,
you are not having a pity party—you are going thru a very painful time and you will have to deal with this person in some capacity for years as he is the father of your beloved child.

You got great advice from the above post–I have not much to add to their input except I agree-especially about not worrying about forgiving. Forgiving is overrated–especially when what you “need” to forgive for is actively still happening or likely to happen again. Forgiving YOURSELF is the priority. Take care of your own mental health, that trickles down to be healthy for your son.

I do not remember reading that the father has made financial contributions, or provides insurance. Surely the ball is still in your court legally–I saw you volunteer to let him see his child but had to drive him back in forth because of no drivers license.

I think you need to not feel guilty about forgiving the father and just look out for your minor child. The father will likely disappoint the child as he gets older and can see the situation for himself. If he does better you can always change visitation–but I feel you should fight for complete control of choices for your child.

You do not know this new woman in your childs fathers life. She has chosen to involve herself with an abusive alcoholic with no drivers license—she doesn’t need to come into your childs life. Children that age love so deeply and freely. I understand you wanting to keep him away from his father except under circumstances-YOU feel are ok.

Seaisland

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