Hey dfh,

I understand your plight and sympathize. It sounds like a very difficult situation. I know what it can be like to not have friends (I moved to a city recently). However, I think thats why its even more important for you not to date this person. Not only has she told you she is not ready to date, but dating her would leave you without friends. Perhaps she has called you less because she is concerned you are not willing to be just friends, and are not giving up on the relationship aspect. She may very well like you, but being a 25 year old working single mother is hard, and I actually applaud her for recognizing it is not the time in her life to date. She is not in the same place as you are. You want stability and a wife and kids and a family. She is trying to support her child and become a stable mother on her own. Bringing someone else in is too difficult right now and you should respect that.

If you truly want her friendship, I would suggest calling her and telling her that you are 100% happy with the friendship and would like things to go back to the way they were. Then, you need to join meetups, sports, pretty much any kind of social activity you enjoy. Age group doesnt matter. Just get yourself active and social. I think you need some social stability in your life before you can even consider a relationship. And who knows, the more people you become friends with who do activities you enjoy, the more likely it will be to find like-minded potential women to date 🙂