Thank you.

I agree with you 100%. However, so far no one (professional or otherwise) has given me any indication that this is even possible. My lawyer is essentially guiding me in the direction of getting him help so that he can be a “good enough” father to my child, because at the end of the day the courts ultimate goal is for the child to have a significant relationship with both parents, and if it goes to court, that will be the eventual outcome. I will still have to deal with him on some level.

The only thing will get rid of him is for him to make that decision himself, and sign away his parental rights. And I’m 99.999% sure that’s not going to happen. If nothing else, his parents won’t let him do that.