Hi Lauren,

I’ve been through two miscarriages, and in a way it was harder for my husband because ~ he didn’t know how to react, or even how he should be feeling! He would make clumsy efforts to comfort me which of course, I “snapped away”. Then I too didn’t think he was grieving enough or at all. But in a weird, inexplicable way he was.

For us, the baby in us is real, physical. For them it is an idea, a concept. Then when we lose the physical baby there is blood, torment and a huge hormone dump. For them they don’t see (necessarily) the blood or feel the feelings. They just see a distraught woman. They try in their dopey ways to “be there” but then we lose it.

I would say maybe, perhaps, give him another chance. His reaction is, sadly, typical. Of course, this miscarriage may also highlight relationship difficulties which were already there. It’s up to you.

Best,

Inky