Dear Anita,

“The not-valid, incorrect message is: I am a bad, twisted person. And so, if you practice deciphering correct, true, real messages behind your emotions and dismissing the incorrect, false, unreal messages, you will increase your “emotional intelligence” a lot!” You are right Anita, I did not respond to the issue as I should have.

The reason I believed myself to be a bad person was because I was taught that feeling bitterness/need for revenge was a character flaw. I wish I didn’t think that way because we all experience all different sorts of emotions but that was what my grandmother instilled in me. She taught me that those sorts of emotions were bad, that they made a person a sinner I suppose.