Hi Amelia_R,

Sometimes people need “little hurts” for them to permanently change their behavior. He may think drugs and lying (all once in a while, of course *sarcasm*) are no big deal. But you bet your butt he will remember the time when his amazing girlfriend broke up with him over it! Then, every time he lights up, every time he sees his “friends”, every time he buys (or sells!) he cannot help but to think of the one big thing he lost over all these “little” things ~ you!!

You are actually giving him the greatest gift of love. Sometimes love means sacrifice. Tell him that you can’t deal with the drugs and the lying anymore. That you are taking a break. To call you in 2017. You may be available, he may not. He may be available, you may not. He may be still using. He might not. But if there is a slim chance for him to be clean and with you in the future, THAT will give him something to fight for!

Then, yes, go out with this other guy.

Let’s say that your BF does move on and sees someone else. Guess what? She, too, will think it is getting old. The older we get, the less tolerance ANYONE has for this crap. Even his “friends” will grow out of it. Eventually, yes, he will become a regular person. I hope.

Blessings,

Inky