Dear Tee:

I see your point. And my own: indeed safety in a relationship is a must, having a partner who will shoulder the responsibilities for the future, who will initiate new moves for better income, better job, further education, maybe… that makes a lot of sense. I suppose the relationship with him was good for as long as living in the moment was good enough, but as you look into the future, a family, maybe, aging… living in the moment is not good enough!

So you made the correct choice for you but there is a price for that choice: leaving behind the familiar companionship, safety and enduring the loneliness and sadness about the loss of him in your life. As you move into your future with a … future oriented, independent minded man, what choice do you have and what alternative to … enduring this pain?

Keep posting here for support through this pain that needs to be endured, again and again, for as long as you’d like!

anita