Hi hurts

Think about it from this guys point of view. You let him have sex with you, you talk about wanting him to love you but you still ‘put out’, even if he doesn’t so why would he. Would you love someone if they had sex with you, kept clinging to you even if they treated you badly? Would you respect them?

Many people are capable of having sex with people they don’t even like – actually can’t stand to be around outside of bed. (I’m not saying this is you at all but it is the extreme of the same thing) They obviously aren’t going to say that to the other persons face but they figure well if they let me treat them badly and still come back for more then they must like it really. If she says she wants love but still has sex with me when I don’t give it to her she can’t really want love.

Anyway the guys above me are more insightful and probably helpful but I know what it is like to delude yourself in this way somewhat and have found looking at it from how it must seem to the other side can be useful.

hug

Eris