Dear Wisdom:

You wrote: “you have to wait for an answer or pry it out.” The answers are in you and right outside you, not “out there”. For example: you are afraid. Question: Why? Answer: Because you experienced hurt in the past and you are afraid to experience more of it, and maybe even worse. What to do? Take small steps, make something small but desirable happen every day so to build your confidence in your ability to make a difference in your own life. Over time you will be less afraid and more resourceful.

How? look right outside of you, as you are doing for the daily assignments: a mirror? do the mirror exercise. A girl in school that looks lonely? You talked to her. You were nominated VP for a club- you attend the first meeting coming Tuesday. You applied for a job. These are all things you did and none of them is too small. Each is significant. Don’t forget the assignment today!

anita