Dear Lily:

So your mother kicked you out of the house because you were sick with ulcers… as a reaction to her fighting with her husband in front of you and involving you in their fighting, is that correct? She kicked you out of the house when you were a teenager because you suffered the consequences of her mistreatment of you (putting you in the middle of her fighting and divorce)?

Are you in a relationship with your mother presently? What kind of a relationship is it? Did at anytime in all these years after she kicked you out, did she ever acknowledge with much regret the wrong she has done to you?

I am asking this because there is a strong connection between those early relationships, those with parents, and relationships later on, with friends and partners.

Hoping we keep talking, Forum Friend:

anita