Dear Bernadette,
I can understand how you feel…You ve been with ur bf for 4 years..thats a long time.I feel that you should decide on these matters little calmly.if he constantly tells you that he loves you it doesn’t mean that he loves you….do you feel he loves you?? when you’re hurt does he look or feel hurt?? how much do you miss him?? do you think he too misses you that much?? I wud advice you to call him up once and get some answers for these questions.decide after that if you want to end this or are you ready to give him another chance.If you feel that he really wants to change then help him change…dont just expect him to change all by himself,constantly support him,encourage him to talk to you about things like how was his day at office and small stuff..and when you feel he’s hiding something then just ask him to sit with you and talk things out…tell him calmly that he doesnt have to share everything with you,it wud just make you feel good if he did..

Does it matter what your friends or family or his friends or his family think about the two of you??? you love him and he loves you..thats all that matters! It might be something thats troubling him or he’s scared to talk to you about him..put yourself in his shoes and think.and if you get back together with him then tell him not to take your concern as nagging.If you feel that he’s not honest enough then move on….it will hurt initially but have faith that someone really special s waiting for you somewhere..but if you feel that he might be that special guy then forgive him.nobody becomes smaller if they apologize if they are wrong,instead you become a greater person if you forgive them. talk to him and you ll know what to do.

Remember that when God solves your problems,have faith in Him..but when He doesnt,He has faith in you…follow your heart dear..

I ll be very happy if youve benefited even a bit from the big lecture i just gave you…Please let me know if things get better.

loads of love,

Crystal…