I think you’re making amazing head way already in that you acknowledge the fact that you’re mind is playing tricks on you by drifting back. It’s actually lying to you and repeating a story like a broken record. Acknowledge it for what it is, just a story. I find giving it a title helps.

Did you ever watch the show Friends? All their episode titles start with “The One…” So yours could be, “The One where my mind is telling me I’m not good enough to be in a meaningful and healthy sexual relationship.”

I personally have sat down and written down all the titles of all the stories that my mind has made up over the years and I’ve found it to be a very liberating exercise. Once you recognize that your mind plays tricks on you, you don’t have always believe it. Is this a story that’s helping you move towards positive action? Or is it a story that’s causing anxiety, fear, and holding you back?

If it’s the latter, but a label on it, “LIE!” Laugh it! Yell at it! Tell it that you’re not going to let it hold you back anymore! This voice that’s inside your head telling you these awful things is not the real you. It’s the voice of parents, friends, and other relationships. It’s even the hypersexualized media that sets ridiculously unrealistic standards of living that no one could ever live up to.

Just by recognizing your thoughts as something that’s holding you back, you’re already on the right track! 🙂