I think there are a couple separate things going on here. First, you want more than he does out of a relationship. He has made that very clear. And he really has no incentive to do anything because right now he gets to be with you when he feels like it, and when he doesn’t he’s busy “figuring things out”. I’m not saying this to be cruel, but I strongly suspect that “figuring things out” includes dating other women. So, the real question is- is that what you are willing to put up with in this relationship, because he has no intention of changing.

Second- I think you need to look after you and not have him in your life if you truly can’t accept that he will never commit. That would mean cutting off contact with him completely because you will not be able to start healing if he is bouncing in and out when he wants to. Immerse yourself in your college life and enjoy. Meet friends, go to games and plays and concerts, meditate and spend some alone time to learn that you can exist and be OK even when you’re not in a relationship. And look at some of the blogs on this about relationships and also about changes and challenges. They give some great insightful ideas on things to help you keep balanced and work through the hurt.