Paula,

Yes, I think that this is something that anyone can do. I too felt unheard and unacknowledged.

Funny thing though. When I started focus on the Divine me and dis-identify with the angry me I found that I felt acknowledged and heard. I started doing this for myself. I no longer had to be angry at the world that was doing this ‘to me.’

I made a commitment to change because I wanted to. I also got a really good therapist who didn’t let me deceive myself.

The most important words in your post are in parenthesis. (if willing)

The process continues for me. My oldest graduated from High School on Saturday. We had a party and I was challenged by ‘my wife’s friends’ that used to be ‘our friends’ would no longer talk to me. I guess I just have more internal resources now and am doing a better job of facing this stuff as it comes up. Life skills I guess. Just being preset to the emotions as they arise and not judging them or myself.

Peace, Jerry