Hi,
Your story seems quite confusing, so you are married, but you decided to get out with an ex boyfriend is that it? Or is this the same guy you are married to? Or is this the family member? Regardless seems like this guy has grown to a different person and so are you, and you are trying to go backwards, because you are not happy in your current situation, so you think you can feel better by going down memory lane.
But you have to remember, that is only a memory now, NOTHING ELSE. The past is the past and does not exist anymore. If you want to be happy in present you have to deal with your present life, instead of looking to your past memories for a temporary fix.

I would say, find the reason for your current troubles and see if what would make you happy right now. I don’t know details about your life so it’s hard to give opinion but this is all I can say for now 🙂
Love
Danubelle
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