Hi Cyd,

I’m so sorry to read about your disappointment with love. Love is such a warm and magical thing, I believe there is love within you always.
When I read your message the word ‘they’ comes up a lot. It made me wonder about what it is that you do and feel and say?

Sometimes it just doesn’t work with someone. I have had a lot of ‘bad’ relationships. I was single for 4 years, and then I realized a couple of things:
– I and I alone am responsible for my life, for my happiness, for my past choices and for the choices I will make in the future.
– If I want to be truly happy with someone else, I first have to be truly happy with myself
– Happiness and love cannot be demanded from another person, they can only be shared

That first one helped me to take control of my life again, to have the power to forgive others and myself, to work on my confidence, to work on loving myself.

I’m in a loving relationship now and I know I still have a lot to learn, but I’m less scared now, I need less assurance from my partner.

Dear Cyd, you have everything you need right there within you. Look for it with mildness, take responsibility for your own reactions and your own choices. You are not a victim of overrated love, you are a student of life of which love is the most beautiful lesson.

kindest regards,
Karin