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November 21, 2024 at 2:42 pm #439604

Helcat
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Hi Jana

Thank you for your kind words of support for my family! ❤️ It is true, life is a test. 😊

You have a beautiful family and your love for them is inspiring. If you ask me, pets count as family too!

I think my resolution will be to spend less time on my phone and more time with the ones I love. And to make sure that everyone feels equally loved.

I really should learn more about the EFT, you are making me curious about it. I’ve never tried it before.

I’m sorry to hear that you were beaten by boys when you were younger. I think you did a really good job healing from your past!

I see, well the experience with your neighbour does sound unexpected and stressful. Sometimes it can take a bit of time to recover from these things. I know that you meditate, do you have any other self-care practices?

Love, peace and best wishes! ❤️🙏

November 23, 2024 at 11:45 am #439625

Jana 🪷
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My posts here are again “awaiting moderation”. It has been many hours since I sent them. I included a picture and two links. Maybe I shouldn’t continue posting here because I need to express myself more with emojis, pics, inspirational links and it is obviously a huge problem. It is demotivating for me.

I wanted to explain EFT for you which is not possible without a picture……

Maybe by e-mail?

This was sent on Nov 23, at 20:45 in Czechia.

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November 23, 2024 at 12:23 pm #439627

anita
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Dear Jana:

I can feel your frustration and it’s understandable that you feel frustrated following these difficulties. What I do before I submit each and every post is, I copy it first, then submit. If it fails to submit, I still have the copy and can re-submit. If a post doesn’t go through because of a link, you can resubmit without the link.

You can also contact the website owner on the matter (HOME=> CONTACT top left of the homepage) and ask for help.

I don’t want tiny buddha to lose you as a contributing member!!

(I will be away from the computer for the rest of the day).

anita

November 24, 2024 at 12:57 am #439638

Jana 🪷
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It is a good idea. It is true that it is a bit annoying. You prepare your post, you take your precious time to look up information, sort out and write down your thoughts and you look forward to getting some replies. And then your post is awaiting moderation and it has been many hours (more than a week in case of one of my posts) and you still have no information. Was it deleted? If so, why? Is it still waiting? Hmmmmmm…

(Nov 24, 9:57)

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November 24, 2024 at 1:04 am #439639

Jana 🪷
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I continue with my journal …

I don’t want to get rid of my introversion and sensitivity (and I don’t think it is possible). On the one hand I enjoy being introvert a lot. I love being alone only with animals, in the woods, in the meadows and tops of the hills. I feel strong connection to nature. It is my world, my healing… spiritual and physical too. (I actually use a lot of herbs for many illnesses and troubles… I’ve never had antibiotics in my life.) I am happy that thanks to my sensitivity I can feel a lot of beautiful and beneficial things around me: smells, sounds, sights, … I can tell the difference between a cat and a dog with closed eyes just by the smell. 🙂 There are many old pines around our house and I love their smell, especially when the sun heats them a lot in the summer, they produce very comforting scent. I like meditating listening to the wind and birds singing around… And I could write on and on and on… I also enjoy just my presence. I like being only with myself because I am peaceful and calm and I am very happy and joyful inside most of my time alone.

But on the other hand, I know that it is a stumbling block when it comes to contact with people. I am like a sponge. I absorb the energies around a lot… and I absorb people’s energies and moods, as well. And when people are stressed, angry, upset, … that’s when I feel the fear of them…

I have troubles when my boyfriend comes home and he needs to unburden to me. When he really gets into an unpleasant situation from work and gets a little bit angry because of some managers etc., I start to feel uncomfortable and have a need to “detach” (which means that I usually stop listening carefully and I am somewhere else in my head, if you know what I mean) … I can literally feel my energy waning and I get tired and I feel stressed a little bit. He would never ever hurt me. And he knows this about me and he tries to be more attentive.

I absord his energy in other situations, too. When he is a bit nervous in a car, when he is grumpy when he cannot smoke (he is a smoker), when he doesn’t feel comfortable in a group of people or when he is sick… I mean, I am grateful for this, too. It is a positive thing in a relationship. But I need to find some strategies to control my “absorbing”…

The biggest problem is with stragers. When they have a very strong energy, such as anger, and they are also loud and dominant, it is really overwhelming for me. And this is the fear… this is the situation when I feel the fear of people… I am not afraid of people as such but rather their negative energies which get into me. After absorbing anger etc., I feel confused… because it is not my feeling… but the effect is in me… I need to work on this.

(written on Nov 24, at 10:04)

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November 24, 2024 at 6:10 am #439619

Jana 🪷
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🕊️ Emotional Freedom Technique 🕊️

Hello! I would like to share a simple guide to how work on your feelings and emotions with EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) by Gary Craig. Someone who will come across my journal might find it useful.

This version of EFT is simplified and it doesn’t include an exercise with eyes. Look at this picture (I hope you can see it in this post – let me know)

1. Think of an issue you have. And get really into it. Do not just think about it, but take your time and focus deeply and fully on feelings and emotions that this issue arouses in you.

2. You can measure the intensity of your feelings and emotions with these emojis: 😊 – 🙂 – 😐 – ☹️ – 😢 or from 1 (the least intense feeling) to 10 (the most intense feeling)

2. You don’t have to do this step. You can tap without saying anything and just focus on the feelings and emotions. However, for some it works better when they can express their emotions in words. And there is the affirmative sentence to accept yourself and your feelings which is quite important. You can prepare your statement: (I created an example statement here:) Even though I feel devastated after our break-up, I love myself and accept myself deeply as I am.

3. Close your eyes. Get into your emotions and say your statement three times aloud and keep tapping your outer palm.

4. Get into your emotions or say your statement and continue tapping from point one to nine in the picture. Don’t worry if you skip a point. I know people who skip the point Center of head and I personally starts with outer palm (saying three times a statement or simply feeling the emotions for a while deeply), then I just feel the emotions or say main feeling (such as in the example “feeling devastated”) and tap inner eye, outer eye, below eye, below nose, below lip, collar bone, below armpit and forearm near my palm. Do not hurry, it is also a form of mindfulness. You have to do it carefully and be very mindful of your feelings and emotions.

5. Open your eyes. You will naturally breath out… Think about any changes – better, worse. Check your feelings with emojis (or numbers), if you need. Tap until you feel relieve and you would identify with the first happy emoji. 😊 (or number one – no negative emotion, just neutral) Some feelings take MANY rounds of tapping… my personal exeprience with social phobia – years of tapping. The thing is that when you get into a deep problem, a lot of forgotten memories and negative emotions arouse. You need to tap them all.

You can ask any questions, if you need.
(written on Nov 23, 7:52)

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November 24, 2024 at 6:10 am #439620

Jana 🪷
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🪷 Buddhism – inspirational links 🪷

I also would like to share with you links I find inspirational and helpful for my/our growth.

Thich Hanh – The Art of Mindful Living, part 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dDXcIaUKHDU

Thich Hanh – The Art of Mindful Living, part 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JlEqlqzkpT4

PS: I’ll come back later. I am working on my promises to my beloved ones, meditation and mindful living. I think I have also figured out why certain energies in people still bother me. I’ll write more later. 🦋
(written on Nov 23, 8:02)

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November 24, 2024 at 9:08 am #439647

Roberta
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dear Jana

Thank you for posting the article on EFT

I just wathed this vid on protecton techniques https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qh544wTLmqU.

It is so important for empaths home to be their safe place. Doing ceremonies like sage smudging & having a rock salt lamp may help. Also if you have an outside space it is good to write down what has bothered you the breath deeply & slowly watching it go up in smoke, your boyfriend may be open to doing that as well. You could design a ritual that you two spend the first 30 mins at home doing something that is calming & grounding together and then only to spend say 5-10 mins discussing anything that has a negative bias. Hopefully doing something positive together will allow some calm clear sighted perspective on any troubling situation.

I have noticed even a small life niggle can effect how I fee & interact with others & that I must be vigilant about not accumulating baggage both mine & others.

I look forward to your & others insights on this

November 24, 2024 at 10:19 am #439650

anita
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Dear Jana:

I understand the annoying part. I have no technological ability in regard to managing a website (and about almost everything when it comes to computers), but from what I understand, there is a lot of work involved, and it can be overwhelming, particularly with no help.

“On the one hand I enjoy being introvert a lot. I love being alone only with animals, in the woods, in the meadows and tops of the hills. I feel strong connection to nature. It is my world, my healing… And I could write on and on and on“- I feel serene just by reading your words about your experiences in and with nature.

“I like being only with myself because I am peaceful and calm and I am very happy and joyful inside most of my time alone“- you read like a healthy person in every way.

“But on the other hand, I know that it is a stumbling block when it comes to contact with people. I am like a sponge… I absorb people’s energies and moods, as well. And when people are stressed, angry, upset.. that’s when I feel the fear of them“- this indicates a high level of empathy and emotional sensitivity. You are highly receptive to the emotional climate of your environment, taking in both positive and negative energies. You not only sense but also internalize the moods and emotional states of those around you. Negative emotions in others, such as stress, anger, or upset, trigger a fear response in you. This could be due to past experiences or a heightened sensitivity to conflict and tension.Being highly sensitive to negative emotions makes a person more vulnerable to stress and anxiety, particularly in tense or hostile environments. This heightened sensitivity suggests the importance of self-care strategies to protect one own emotional well-being, such as setting boundaries, practicing mindfulness, and seeking supportive relationships.

“When (your boyfriend) really gets into an unpleasant situation from work and gets a little bit angry… I start to feel uncomfortable and have a need to ‘detach’… I usually stop listening carefully and I am somewhere else in my head… I get tired and I feel stressed a little bit. He would never ever hurt me. And he knows this about me and he tries to be more attentive“- you absorb the negative emotions and stress of your boyfriend when he has a difficult day at work. To manage the overwhelming emotions, you mentally detach/ withdraw or dissociate from the situation. This detachment is a way to protect yourself from the negative energy, but it also leads to a lack of presence and attentiveness in the moment. Your boyfriend’s awareness and attempts to be more attentive demonstrate his understanding and support.

“I absorb his energy in other situations, too. When he is a bit nervous in a car… I need to find some strategies to control my ‘absorbing’… The biggest problem is with strangers. When they have a very strong energy, such as anger, and they are also loud and dominant, it is really overwhelming for me… their negative energies which get into me. After absorbing anger etc., I feel confused.. because it is not my feeling… but the effect is in me… I need to work on this“- continually absorbing negative emotions from others depletes your energy, leading to feelings of fatigue and stress. The inability to differentiate between your own feelings and those you absorb from others creates a sense of emotional confusion and distress.

Here are a few ideas, Jana, a few of them we already talked about: (1) Practice visualizing a protective barrier or shield around yourself to prevent absorbing negative energies, a guided imagery exercise, (2) Engage in grounding techniques such as deep breathing, focusing on the senses (touch, smell, sight), or using grounding objects (e.g., holding a stone), so to stay centered and present, (3) Continue to prioritize activities that help replenish your energy, such as spending time in nature, (4) Regular aerobic exercise helps release absorbed stress, (5) Continue to journal, (6) Join support groups or communities for highly sensitive people (HSPs), (7) Continue to communicate with your boyfriend about your need for a calm and supportive environment, and encourage open dialogue about how to best support each other during stressful times.

Thank you for the two previously-awaiting moderation posts! I find the one about EFT, particularly the diagram and how simply it is explained, significantly helpful as I just touched (didn’t even tap) the various points on the face that are shown on the diagram and felt instantly calmer as a result. I intend to practice this more thoroughly later, including when I wake up at night. I didn’t open the links you offered, but will do so later.

anita
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