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  • December 12, 2015 at 6:14 am #89539
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    I’m posting this to set the stage for positivity, so people will the see the positives I saw in my ex –

    1. I loved the way you would look me in the eyes and smile while holding both my hands.

    2. I loved the way you would squeeze my booty and my breast lol.

    3. The combination of your laugh and smile, you would make me weak at the knees and my heart would just melt.

    4. Your beautifully thick long black hair was incredible and I couldn’t help but always admire it. ( Now my hair is exactly like yours, natural, thick, full and dark.) 🙂

    5. I loved how you would hold me in your arms and how you were always willing to hug me at any moment.

    6. I loved how you would walk up and talk to me.

    7. I loved when nobody was around and we were able to just talk 1 on 1 together without any interruptions ( which was rare ).

    8. I loved when you would offer me a bite of your food and a slice of your cake on your birthday. I remember 1 was a chocolate bundt cake and 1 was a carrot cake lol. ( I can never turn down cake.)

    9. I loved when you told me NOT to drive to Southern California for the New Year and to stay in town with you. ( I ended up going anyway because we were not that deep into it yet. Had you asked me to spend NYE with you, I would have stayed.)

    10. I loved it when you text messaged me while in Flagstaff during Xmas eve. It made my entire xmas.

    11. I loved it when you were open about your feelings in person and via-text message.

    12. You melted my heart and won me over when you baked all those cookies for me and left them underneath my suv for me to take home. I ate both containers of chocolate chip cookies lol. ( can you all tell how much I love sweets? Lol. My ex surely did haha… 😉

    13. I loved it when you offered me Krispy Kreme doughnuts, I loved you so much again for that and believe me I hated myself for turning those doughnuts down. ( I was trying to lose weight at the time 🙁 ) I also loved when you offered me some of your Wasabi Doritos.

    14. I loved it when you spoke some Spanish.

    15. I loved everything about you and your body. You never needed to be perfect, I loved you for you. It was never just about sex obviously. Your body, your face, your and everything else I loved.

    Now, I wrote this to send out positivity to the universe and to show people that they can do this too. It’s a healthy exercise and it will remind you that everybody has a high self worth. Love is perfection in itself.

    Please do not respond with ” You are grieving ” this is about showing love and rememberance. I am happy just remembering all the great things In life. Thank you..

    – Namaste

    December 13, 2015 at 8:33 am #89583
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    Dear ElleTinker700:

    You wrote above: “I loved when nobody was around and we were able to just talk 1 on 1 together without any interruptions ( which was rare ).” and “you baked all those cookies for me and left them underneath my suv for me to take home”

    These quotes, your writing, are only two indications that indeed your relationship with Angela was strictly in the context of work: you both worked in a club and the relationship was there, in the club, as co workers. Hardly were the two of you alone, as you wrote. The closest she was to being in your home was to leave cookies for you under your suv, in the club parking lot, I understand. You took those cookies home, not Angela. You didn’t take Angela home. You took the cookies she baked home.

    You have been posting about Angela from the beginning of your participation in this forum. But it was not then and is not now about grieving an ex girlfriend. Angela was not an ex girlfriend. She was an ex co worker with whom you flirted back and forth. Nothing outside of it, in real life. Your many posts about Angela are not about grieving a love relationship but about MAKE BELIEVE. It is about the fantasy of a love story between you and Angela. Your posts are about trying to keep that fantasy alive.

    You, ElleTInker700 reject intimacy and closeness like you were oil and it was water. When you posted recently a link to an article about LOVE, I was the only one to respond. I read the article and left you a comment with a quote from that very article which you were so excited about. Your response was: that’s nice, but it doesn’t (the quote/ the article) apply to me. That was you being like oil, rejecting my effort to connect with you, rejecting the very article itself that you cared so much about, enough to share it.

    I wrote to you before that you are “unknown” to me. You do not let yourself be known, not to others and not to yourself. The little girl ElleTinker is well hidden inside you.

    The one hiding her is going to be very angry at me for writing this, or me having written this, she will try to …show me I am wrong by not appearing angry. One or the other. Why am I writing this? What is the purpose of this in my mind?

    I am fascinated by figuring people out, it interests me and you are very interesting, difficult to figure out. But there is more, I am doing it for the HIDDEN YOU, the part of you so mute, so silenced, I want to speak for her. She still wants to be heard, to be known.

    You wrote in the past that everyone knows there is a lot of food in your mother’s house during the holidays. MAYBE, there was not a lot of love in your mother’s house. Maybe she didn’t look at you with that glowing look you so valued in Angela, that look that says: I am so happy you are in my life! I don’t know what was in your home of origin, the place you visit during the holidays. But your fantasy life is in place so to keep the blinders on. To not see what is painful to see.

    I wish you attended good psychotherapy so to have someone hold your hand as you open your eyes to what is and to who you are locked inside. You wrote you have an “important job” hopefully one where you make enough money to attend psychotherapy with a skillful, dedicated therapist.

    Best wishes to you=
    anita

    December 13, 2015 at 11:16 am #89591
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    Anita, what have I told you over and over again?? I said that there were a lot more things that happened outside of work that I will not mention in this forum and that will not be mentioned. You kept saying yourself that there was a lot more to the story and there was and I am not going to open more wounds by mentioning it. No, our romance wasn’t strictly work related because other things had happened outside of work to prove otherwise. Don’t you EVER accuse me of making up fantasies is my head, there are witnesses to prove that our interactions weren’t strictly at work. Do not ever respond to any of my posts again with your judgements thinking you know everything about my life and everything that had happened between my ex and I because you do not. This was not posted for you to psychologically attack me thinking you know me and what happened with my ex!! Just because other things weren’t mentioned doesn’t mean you know the entire story. I’ve been to counseling and according to my counselor this wasn’t a made up fantasy relationship according to the witnesses she has spoken to who say my interactions with her in and outside of work!

    Don’t ever come on here thinking you know everything about me!

    December 13, 2015 at 11:27 am #89601
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    I don’t have time to make up fantasies in my head and I find it extremely suspicious that it of the 1 year and a half I have been on this forum, you joined less than a year ago and everyone else who knows my story on here already knows this isn’t make believe. Thank you for thinking you know me. You made yourself look foolish and if I wanted to, I would expose every single thing my ex did to show how our relationship went WAYYYY beyond the workplace. I have nothing to prove to you and if you want to hurt my ex, you will do so by continuing to judge me on here and I will expose my ex for what she is. I don’t think my EX would be very happy if I did that on the forum and on the Internet. So do me and her a favor – Don’t ever come on here thinking you know the entire story, unless you are Angela!

    December 13, 2015 at 12:46 pm #89606
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    Dear EllenTinker700:

    You wrote to me above: “Do not ever respond to any of my posts again”- I will respect your assertion and will not comment on any of your future threads. If you comment on someone else’s thread, I may respond to that the original poster or to another poster there, but I will not at all respond to your comment there.

    Best wishes to you (I mean it!)
    anita

    December 13, 2015 at 12:57 pm #89608
    Anonymous
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    No you don’t mean it. As you know nothing about me, what I have been through with my ex the past 6 years or anything about my personal life. You do not know me and you have never met me or my ex, so do not ever cross the line again like you just did in regards to my ex and I. You do not know EVERYTHING to be judging any of us on here. Also, I never mentioned in any of the 15 things where these events took place – So congratulations you just exposed yourself once again!

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