Dear Teresa:

Maybe because you believe that you don’t deserve much love?

anita

Dear Teresa:

I hope your new marriage (I remember from a previous thread) will mean a new way of thinking, feeling and behaving for you, a new attitude. It is time for you to be a “burden” – that is, your feelings, your fears, sorrows, concerns matter and have the right to be voiced and expressed just like any other person’s feelings.

You matter no less than any other person.

Make it so.

anita

Hi Teresa,

Yes you deserve it. Good that you are asking yourself this question, that is where it starts, to gain some insight in why, where did it start, how are your thoughts (about yourself and others..) influencing it.

It might also be good to look at, what kind of thoughts can you put instead, to allow yourself to accept it.
And, if you have a big difficulty with it, what steps can you take, even today, even how small, to start allowing them. They might be tiny steps, if you find it hard. Make yourself used to the fact that you deserve it, and that it is ok. That they are more happy if you allow them, than if you don’t, because they love you and they WANT to care for you.

I haven’t read your previous posts, so I don’t know about your marriage. But I think it is you who needs to make the decision: i will accept it, and not put limits on it, because it is good for me, and i deserve it, and they like to love and care for me as i do for them.
You might stumble sometimes, but i believe you can learn to accept this and live a lot easier and happier.