Hello everyone, I’ve been reading some of the posts to see if I could get some help, but I can see that each of them is a personal situation, so I decide to write about mine.

I was on a long distance relationship (from one side of the world to the other) for 2 and a half years, but we couldn’t get along anymore for many problems, infidelity, unknown future and time difference. Before we broke up we tried many times to fix some of them, but we just couldn’t move on with everything… between the problems that we tried to fix it, we apply for the residence in his country as me like his partner, so we could finally live together… but a week after we broke up, even though the process is still ongoing. I’ve been trying to see how I can cancel it but it seems that is going to take pretty long time, so I need to get full of patience and help from him, since he is the one who has the right to cancel it.

I’ve been trying to contact him, because when we broke up, I told him that for me was definitely and he agreed, but as soon as we close Skype, he wrote me that he didn’t want it to make it definite before he could work on some of his personal problems. After that I’ve been trying to reach him so we can speak about what he wrote and explain him that for me is really hard to move on when I don’t even know if he will show up or not in the future… but he just use excuses for not speaking with me. I decided to stop begging him for speaking with me and from the personality that he has, he won’t contact me, so I guess I have to do it, but I propose to myself just to do it if it’s something about the residence, not anymore the relationship.

I can say that I’ve been having a really hard time, especially because I don’t know what he wants. I am those kind of people who needs to put a name on relationship, so I can make my mind, body and feelings work like it is, and he is the opposite, but is not fair with me that he doesn’t show up while I’m trying to move on in something that is unknown.

If anyone can help me with advices or if there is someone who is willing to speak with me, I would be really grateful, since I haven’t speak to anyone about this. Thanks!
(sorry if my English is bad but is not my mother tongue)