The timing of his sudden lack of communication (right after you slept together) really is super odd and a big red flag, but I think I would probably give it a little more time, just in case he really is feeling terrible. It’s possible that that really could be keeping him from responding like normal just from feeling weak and lethargic, and I think people tend to be a little more self-centered when sick (not thinking about how others’ might feel) just because their own pain is so noticeable to them right then and he really may just be sleeping a lot.

So, my advice would be to just ride this out for a few more days. Don’t ask him to hang out, and I probably wouldn’t even bother texting him until he texts you once he feels better since you’ve already let him know you hope he feels better and to let you know if there’s anything you can do. He can only have a cold for so long and THEN you’ll be able to really gauge his interest by how well he communicates after that. If he’s still taking forever to reply or not seeming to be interested after he’s feeling better, then I would back way off.

Dear Heartbrokengurl:

Welcome back!

If I remember correctly, it happened before, maybe repeatedly (please let me know if I remember correctly), that you started a relationship with a man and right after the  first night you spent with him, the man became distant and withdrew from  you, very similar to  the man you shared about on this thread.

I looked at  your very first  thread of 2017, and  in the first paragraph of that thread you wrote regarding a boyfriend you had of 2.5 years: “He has some  anger issues, and I have trouble with  intimacy.  He always brings up sex and says talking to me about  it is like  pulling teeth. I don’t think I am like that,  but in any event,  he  does”-

I wonder if there  is something there that can shed some light on what happened with this recent man, and in previous relationships cut short following  the first sexual intercourse, if I understand correctly. This is of course a very personal topic and you may not  want  to explore it in this context here. But perhaps it  is worthy to explore someplace, more private.

Or here, if we can refer to things non-specifically, or in more general terms that are  not too sexual, and  if you are comfortable about it, and  willing: what was it that your ex boyfriend of 2.5 years was referring to when he said he tried to talk with you about it, but it was like pulling teeth-  what was the issue  he was trying to talk with you about?

anita