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Am I just not cut out for full-time work?

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    J
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    I graduated from college in 2013 with a BA in Political Science. When I graduated, I didn’t know what I wanted to do with my life. At the beginning of 2014, I began work as a substitute teacher. I liked it so much, that I decided to pursue a teaching career. I had enrolled in an alternative certification program. Then in October of 2014, I started working at a retail store. I worked at this retail store until August of 2015. In August, I started a full-time teaching job. But the stress of the job became so bad, I was having panic attacks, stomach issues, and I even had to see a therapist. I was terminated from this job in mid-October. Then in March 2016, I had gotten another job at a retail store. I stayed at this job until July of this year. In July, I started another full-time job (non-teaching). The job was only going to last a year, so I thought I could stick it out. This job was stressful too, but I was determined not to let that stress get to me. I started this particular job in July of this year, and I got laid off on October 13. I don’t want to go back to retail, but I’m beginning to think that I’m not cut out for full-time work. I really want to teach abroad, but that would be considered a full-time job too, and I’m worried that I won’t be able to handle it. Is something wrong with me?

    #176185
    Alien incident47
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    Teaching can be tough,  I’m not sure where you thought,  but a suggestion I have would be to look at teaching in a private school . The pay may not be as good but classes will be smaller and maybe less stressful.  Learn to deal with stress through meditation and calming your mind . This will take some time but as you learn to deal with stress you can look into teaching in larger classes.  Good luck

    #176215
    Anonymous
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    Dear J:

    Anxiety does make life (including full time working) difficult, way more difficult than it can be otherwise.

    In July of 2016 you wrote: “I’m 26 with no kids, not married, and I don’t have any major responsibilities”- but I get the feeling that you do feel very responsible, as an only (now adult) child, responsible for your mother. Am I correct? If so, will you tell me about it?

    anita

    #176307
    J
    Participant

    Well, I don’t feel responsible for my mom in a way that I have to care for her. She’s not sick or anything. It’s just that I’m scared that if/when I leave home, something will happen to her or me and I won’t be able to do anything about it. It also does not help that now I’m out of a job. I don’t like asking people for money, or for people giving me money. I don’t want her to think that I can’t take care of myself.

    #176361
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear J:

    I re-read your posts and our communication from July 2016. It is my understanding that your anxiety has its roots in your relationship with your mother. You indicated there that she is a Type A personality and also that she is clingy and overbearing. You are very much afraid that something will happen to her or to yourself if you are not living with her or very close to her. Any discussions on this with your then therapist (you no longer attend?)

    anita

    #176367
    Anonymous
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    #176399
    J
    Participant

    No. I haven’t talked to my therapist in a while. The last time I talked to her, I had had a panic attack and was struggling with my anxiety. But I wasn’t really having any work issues or issues with my mom at that time.

    #176407
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear J:

    Dealing with anxiety, which I believe is the cause for many of your struggles, needs to include management skills, for example, practicing the skill of Mindfulness (you can read about in the Home Page of this website, and elsewhere) and insight into the past. Our relationships with our parent/s in the past, as we were growing up, are most powerful in our lives.

    anita

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