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  • #176185
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    Teaching can be tough,  I’m not sure where you thought,  but a suggestion I have would be to look at teaching in a private school . The pay may not be as good but classes will be smaller and maybe less stressful.  Learn to deal with stress through meditation and calming your mind . This will take some time but as you learn to deal with stress you can look into teaching in larger classes.  Good luck

    #175325
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    Dear Victoria B

    I have a question to ask you and you yourself,  is what caused your anxiety and depression?  Was it that your all your parents divorce ? Or a multitude of other happeings in life as well.  Moving to a far off place may not be the answer if you have not dealt with the depression and anxiety.  Being in a new surrounding can also cause anxiety as well. I will tell you even though you are part of the family,  you are not apart of the marriage,  so your parents divorce is there choice to make.  And it says and hard for you to deal with,  running away is not the answer for you if that is why you want to move away. I guess what I’m trying to say is for you to be in a better mind set before going to a new place . Take care in your choices

    #166360
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    Hello Tess

    The best way I can answer your questions is that many of us on here , don’t fully practice Buddha . We find it more enlightened and soul awakening then say reading the bible . Well at least that is why I am a member of this site

    #164522
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    The trust is not broken,  it’s gone , that the she swallowed pills says she is controlling you. “If I cant have you then I will harm myself ” . How do you plan on having a relationship with no trust , she broke it , sure you had good times its why you were together for a period of time. But did she remember the good times when she cheated ?  Sometimes you got to cut your losses and go . And on anther note the fact she tried hurting her self because you are leaving,  that’s also abuse

    #161842
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    Sounds like you need some marriage counseling,  for both of you . She is not the only one in this marriage causing problems.  Reading your letter,  you belittle her , she may be sensitive,  but belittling her is not helping your situation . You didn’t take the time to know each other during your courtship of getting to know each other. Like what kind of cook she is , how she keeps the house clean and what your expectations are . Maybe quitting is not the right answer, realize you both need to work on your marriage and not give up so quickly,  you as well made a promise to her on the day you took your vows

    #153494
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    I can relate to how you feel at times when I was younger man a woman’snumber was important,  but now that I’m older it means nothing,  I have come to realize that it doesn’t matter if she’s was one before me or a thousand lovers before me , it’s what is in her heart . If she loves you dearly then focus on tat and feed those thoughts of her loving you ,that is what is important.  Focus on her love for you when you feel the negative thoughts creeping in your head . Be a man of wisdom and heart the guys that speak of her in poor taste , are guys if poor taste , and she chose you of any man in the world she could have , and that is something more valuable then gold it’s self is her love for you .

    #151412
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    Hi Annie

    I have been in situations like this and yes it annoying and you feel like he is trying to take control.  Perhaps may be looking at it from a different point of view,  may be helpful is hard driven and want to do all he can to make a good impression.  You should have a talk with his boss and have them explain that his work should come first and that it is lacking.  Which not a good way to impress higher ups . As far as the gossip go don’t do it around him which actually shouldn’t be done at work at all ,to avoid conflicts at work. I only the other hand just text a few coworkers that I can trust during the day if I want to vent frustrations .

    #149753
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    <p style=”text-align: center;”>  It’s not about money but how happy you are in your career.  The best currency is what you can offer other people, to help others. I heard that and now have learned that ,because I realize that my best times in life was when I struggle more just trying to get by. So I suggest to think and look for what would make you happy and more full filled in life . You came out of a hurtful relationship and you are doing right by focusing on yourself and have new goals.  You are not dumb for being in the situation you are in , you made choices from the heart and it didn’t work out for what you had hoped.  So set the past in the past and move forward with your future,  which ever path you choose.</p>

    #149519
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    You over thinking the situation from my point of view.  He was honest with you, you mentioned no sign of him trying to get with her or vice versa. The incident you write about is getting the best of you , you say you forgave him then do so as well as her . Her being around and your jealousy will only cause you grief and your relationship will suffer .

    #145177
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    Hello
    <p style=”text-align: left;”>It is not wrong speaking as a Christian I find Buddhism easier to understand and more enlightened than the bible. To me Christianity is biased and conflicting as to morals and what is right . However in your situation you are under your parents house and rules so you might want to keep Buddhist teaching more to yourself because you know how your parents feel about it.</p>

    #145173
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    Hello

    The way I see it is to deal with it like you say as with addict is to be open minded about it.  Make him feel comfortable about talking to you about what it is he fantasizes about the sex acts he watches.  Be understanding it will help in breaking his addiction.  You must understand it has nothing to do with you . It’s nothing more than a fantasy he is addicted to . A word of caution is you may be shocked at the type of porn but still be open minded and help him because you love him and good luck

    #144977
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    Hello

    I can relate to what you feel towards your parents . My parents were never the best communicators,  or giving sound advice. You may even find friends that way,  follow your dreams and never give up is the sound advice I can give you . You may lack their support but not their love for you. Remember this is your dream to go into medicine noto their dream,  so work hard and make that dream a reality,  it’s your goal , and always remember why you wanted to follow this path in life . I wish you the best on your quest , people may put you down,  grades may not be what you like at times , but remain focus , it is your dream,  so make the best of every situation and keep on going.

    #144733
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    You both have a good and open honest friendship just ask him , if you need the money paid back , tell him if not let it go. There is more to friends than money.  As for the car seems like he is trading free parking for driving usage. So live long and prosper as friends do

    #131919
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    There are all kinds of abuse and what you are dealing with is emotional abuse , check with women shelters in your area as well as calling the abuse hothe line and see if there is anything they can do . The best thing you can do is write down in a journal all that is said to you by him and how it makes you feel, time dates everything. You will need this if you have to go to court. In order to leave him you need all the backing you can get. If anything you will have it as a reminder. Good luck

    #126977
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    What he is trying to do get you to argue with him and then turn around and act innocent as if you are the being a bully . Do not engage him in any way and continue to ignore him . But do make note and write down events that will follow or things said around him or between you two . He is known as a “serial provoker” look it up or Google it . Do not play his game . When it comes to saying hello or good by , I will say ” hello everyone ” or ” see you all later ” , that way I included every one and know one can say I’m leaving them out or single them out which is probably telling others that is what you are doing to him , good luck

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