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October 24, 2017 at 6:31 pm #174695
Victoria BParticipantHi everyone,
I’m currently having a very difficult time deciding whether I should continue staying here in Perth, Australia or just move over to Ireland already.
A bit of a background to the story. Ireland has always been my dream. To be there. It’s my spiritual home and my heart is calling to be there every day. Something so strong I can hardly ignore it anymore.
The past few years have been tough in terms of major changes / and endings. My parents divorced. And on top of that I discontinued my previous studies at uni due to bad anxiety and depression, last year. Things have changed so much that I feel lost as in what to do career wise. I feel unsure of myself because I have changed quiet a lot!
I’m currently staying with my dad and his ‘new’ partner. Although to me, things just feel ‘off’. Very ‘off’. I don’t feel comfortable being here. I feel that I need to make a decision.
I feel like I don’t want to posphone my happiness for another few years until I re-start another degree or qualification in order to eventually move to Ireland. The thought of waiting things out here even longer makes me unhappy. The only thing is if I do make the move now or in less than a years time – I will be moving away with no qualification.
My question is: what would you do for your happiness? (In my circumstance)
Victoria.
October 25, 2017 at 12:04 am #174707
VJParticipantDear Victoria,
I do not have any suggestions about the question in the last line, because happiness cannot be guaranteed.
“Wherever you go, there you are” ~Eckhart Tolle.
But I can surely advise on decision making.
– Usually all the facts about the situation are enough to make a decision. But in some cases they are not.
– See if the new decision is not coming out of an egoic impulse (just for the sake of seeking pleasure) OR if it is a genuine inner impulse.
– The idea is to postpone taking any immediate action and wait for a longer time. If the impulse is still there, then go with that impulse.“It’s my spiritual home and my heart is calling to be there every day. Something so strong I can hardly ignore it anymore.”
From your post it looks like you have a true calling.Make sure to go through Eckhart’s video below.
(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N_4zwRhxHbc)
Warm Regards,
VJOctober 25, 2017 at 10:13 am #174815
AnonymousGuestDear Victoria:
If I was you I would do whatever it takes to move far away from the parents, your father and his partner, currently. And far away from your mother as well. If I was you, no plan would be good enough if it meant living with either your father or your mother. No plan will be good enough if remaining physically close with either was part of the plan.
If and when you move to Ireland, there will be difficulties and challenges there, for you. It will not be a heavenly experience possible only in a dream.
anita
October 28, 2017 at 7:10 am #175325
Alien incident47ParticipantDear Victoria B
I have a question to ask you and you yourself, is what caused your anxiety and depression? Was it that your all your parents divorce ? Or a multitude of other happeings in life as well. Moving to a far off place may not be the answer if you have not dealt with the depression and anxiety. Being in a new surrounding can also cause anxiety as well. I will tell you even though you are part of the family, you are not apart of the marriage, so your parents divorce is there choice to make. And it says and hard for you to deal with, running away is not the answer for you if that is why you want to move away. I guess what I’m trying to say is for you to be in a better mind set before going to a new place . Take care in your choices
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