Hello fellow humans,

I need a piece of objective advice here. Over the summer I worked as an intern and got quite close to one of my co-workers – we were very similar, had a lot of interests in common and hung out a few times outside of work. Problem was we had conflicting feelings about each other. I really liked him and wanted to take things further, but he was moving away in a few months to another city and said long distance relationships don’t work well with him. A few things happened which made it obvious that he did have some kinds of feelings for me, however when I finished the internship, he avoided me and refused to say goodbye to me. He apologised and said he was a mess.

We did agree that we’d visit each other and try to stay friends. So when I told him I was coming to his town (I had other reasons to go there apart from him), he at first told me he was glad I was visiting and arranged accommodation for me, then backed out of seeing me a week before I left, telling me in the process he was seeing someone, apologising again. I was really hurt, determined not to initiate contact again and kept on living my life.  But he did contact me again, a few days ago, just casual conversation that didn’t really lead anywhere. However its getting very painful for me, I have actual feelings for him and I’m fairly certain he’s in a committed relationship now. But we are working in the same area and there is quite a high chance we’ll run into each other in the future again. Not to mention me visiting his home town also meant I met most of his friends, and they were very friendly, invited me for drinks etc. I’m very confused and I don’t know what to do, and seeing his social media with another girl is really hurting me. Should I block him everywhere and forget or let time do its thing, stay in vague contact and hope for the best?