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  • #391315
    anita
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    Dear Notebook6:

    You are welcome. Learning to detach some from your friend and from the friendship can only do you and the friendship good! I am glad that you booked a yoga trial class this weekend. I hope you enjoy it and that you will share about it here, in your thread!

    anita

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    #391620
    anita
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    How are you, Notebook?

    anita

    #391621
    Notebookb6
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    Dear anita,

    I’m feeling calmer, my friend still initiate interaction with me as usual, although I still feels like I shouldn’t depend my happiness on him, still trying to shift focus to something else. We’ll be having gathering with mutual friends next week, I feel nervous thinking about it.

    #391622
    anita
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    Dear Notebook6:

    Good to read back from you, and to read that you are feeling calmer. Why are you feeling nervous about the gathering with mutual friends next week?

    anita

    #391623
    Notebookb6
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    Dear anita:
    Its been 2 years we haven seen each other, and I used to have anxiety while eating together with friend, I afraid will have symptoms again, like face turning red, shaking hand. Also I’m self conscious on my permanent acne scar on face from few years back. I might be overthinking again.

    #391624
    anita
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    Dear Notebook6:

    This gathering will be in-person, in your home town? (I know that you wrote that you will be there until the end of February, I don’t know when your stay in your hometown begins). About your permanent acne scar, there is this cosmetic stick I bought in the pharmacy, it comes in different shades to match your skin color and it covers brown spots and I am guessing it can cover acne scars as well.

    Try to not worry about blushing. Some people think blushing is cute. So even if it feels like a terrible thing to you, your friend is probably going to think it’s fine. He may not even notice it.

    I will be back to the computer in about 11 hours from now.

    anita

    #391625
    Notebookb6
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    Dear anita

    Yup it will be a in-person dinner gathering at my home town. I have tinted sunscreen that might helps in covering so it shouldn’t be an issue, thanks for the suggestion, I shall bring along the concealer that bought not long ago too just in case. This morning I’ve been start preparing for documents needed to cross country, finger crossed everything will be going smooth next week.

    I try not to think about blushing and other reaction, I need some self confidence, probably will write some gratitude journal later

    #391626
    anita
    Participant

    Dear Notebook6:

    Yes, that’s what the cosmetic thing I mentioned is called: a concealer. That topic is covered then. About the blushing, like I said: you feel like it’s a horrible thing, but people may not notice, or not think much of it, or if they do, they may think it’s cute. Practice slow deep breathing, on the plane and during the get together, that should slow down the blushing and maybe even prevent it. Try to not overthink it… focus on your breathing instead, Have a safe flight and a pleasant enough stay in your hometown!

    anita

    #391627
    Notebookb6
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    Dear anita

    Good to know the other perspective on blushing, I try to adapt with the more neutral way of viewing it. Will try out the 7-4-7 breathing that learned few years back, hope it helps! and thanks for the care and wishes, much appreciated. We catch up soon!

    #391629
    anita
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    Dear Notebook6:

    Do the calming breathing exercise you mentioned regularly. When you find yourself overthinking, hold something in your hand (maybe a small stone that you can carry in your purse), hold it, turn it around in your hand, and focus on how it feels: its texture, shape, temperature. Shifting your focus from your overthinking brain to one of your senses (touch in this case) will calm you down every time. I am looking forward to reading from you again, when it’s convenient for you to update me on your travels and stay in your hometown. I wish you safe and smooth travels!

    anita

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