I was feeling a bit adrift and lost, despite my ample “goals.”
This helped me clarify the intentions I chose to live with:
“The Anchor Project” is a way of clarifying the primary values for your life, and strengthening them by taking consistent, manageable steps to focus on the life you want and minimize the impact of external factors.
I began to list the things I wanted in life. I removed all extraneous or superficial goals from this list, and decided to stick with the core values that I considered to be essential.
I realized that many “goals” were distracting me from obtaining the things I really wanted out of life. So things like, “Run a 5K in under 27 minutes” did not make the cut.
I didn’t need more on my “to-do” list. I needed transformation.
There are underlying values— love, connection, authenticity, etc.
Do your values support your intentions? Are your actions rooted in your values?
Or do you see conflicts?
I love this post of yours Angela! My values are: family, adventure, independence, creativity, and authentic connection, and I’ve been working toward a life that honors them equally. Running this site is a big part of it, since it allows me to be creative, connect with people, and live an independent lifestyle. It’s also allowed me to be more adventurous, since I can work from anywhere.
And then this year, I’m working on the family goal. My boyfriend and I have aspired to be bi-coastal, since my family is in MA and his in CA. For 2013, I’ll likely spend 3-4 months with my family, but I think by the start of 2014, we’ll be able to do it 50/50, as we’ve planned.
Clarifying my values was huge for me! Before I never understood why I felt so unsatisfied. That’s not to say I’m 100% satisfied 24/7 now, but I know I’m living life in accordance with my priorities. It really makes a huge difference!
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