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September 9, 2013 at 4:10 am #41906Rachel ColferParticipant
Hi, I have suffered from generalised anxiety the past few years where I would worry I wasn’t going to sleep therefore wouldn’t sleep due to the panic. I self sabotaged myself into this thinking and couldn’t stop.. I still suffer with this today but I have more of an understanding around it now. My problem now however is that I have begun to panic and worry that I will have a panic attack in work or web I’m talking to people!! I panic about panicking and I can actually bring myself to that state of worry. I’m scared and want this way of thinking to stop. I’m Backpacking Australia at the moment and I’m loving it.. I live meeting new people and getting out there but I’m freaking out that this will stop me. I have heard and been recommended the linden method.. Does anyone know anything about this or does anyone have any idea on how to change my way of thinking!! Please help, thank you for reading my post guys
Love, Rachel “)
September 9, 2013 at 9:10 am #41931Buddhist WifeParticipantHello Rachel,
I have an anxiety disorder so I understand some of what you are going through. Panic attacks are not a feature of mine so I can’t offer you specific suggestions here and I have never heard of the Linden method.
Perhaps if you created little saying for yourself such as ‘I am capable and calm. I will not have a panic attack.’ Do you think it would help you if you repeated something like that to yourself?
When my anxious thoughts are rising, I try not to follow them. I use what I learnt in meditation and observe the thoughts and then let them go. I then try to find anything else to think about, even if it just means reciting fruits in alphabetical order!
Congratulations on your big adventure
September 9, 2013 at 10:43 am #41944AcadiaParticipantHi Rachel,
I understand your fear. I suffered from panic attacks for 10 years before finally seeking help to bring about a change in my life. I’m not familiar with the Linden method. But I do know a couple of tools that helped me out as I dealt with panic attacks.
First, I was taught to take the panic thought out as far as I could take it. I had to learn to do this when I was forced to fly for work. For example, I would think “I can’t fly because I might have a panic attack. And what if I had a panic attack on the plane? And if I had a panic attack on the plane, I would have to get out of my seat to walk around. If I had to walk around, I would just go to the back of the plane. And if I had to go to the back of the plane, the flight attendants would ask me why I was out of my seat. Then I would have to tell them I was having a panic attack. And then they would probably help me because they are trained to handle people who are afraid of flying. Then I could stay in the back of the plane until I felt the panic subside — which is always about 15 or 20 minutes after the attack starts.” It helped me to see that the world would not end if I had a panic attack.
Second, I was taught to practice seeing an event or activity in the best possible way. The panic thinking has you focused on the worst possible outcome. Practice seeing every aspect of what you are doing in a positive way. I even had to write it down and then read it over and over again. And see all aspects of the event positively. See what you are wearing, what you are saying, what the air temperature outside feels like on your skin, etc. If was an eye-opening exercise for me to see just how negatively I was viewing what was happening around me.
And lastly, try not to take yourself too seriously. I was so afraid of letting people know I suffered from panic attacks that I suffered in silence for too many years. And when I finally couldn’t hide it anymore, I was overwhelmed by the kindness of friends, acquaintances, co-workers, etc. Smile, laugh, breathe deeply, and enjoy your adventure in Australia.
September 10, 2013 at 7:56 pm #42025Rachel ColferParticipantThank you so much for this. I get what you are saying and i understand its all about re-training my thoughts to see that it’s actually not as bad as i think it is. I do however panic some days that i’m not going to ever get over this or what if i can’t do this. What if i am stuck with this forever and although people like you have been able to conquer this..what if i cant and i just constanly self sabotage myself!! The other side to this is, somewhere within me believes i can stop this and get over this but on the days where i doubt and worry that i’ll do this too myself.. i find hard!!
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